Gender Roles

Wednesday, April 08, 2009 Posted by Shattered Paradigm

The idea of traditional gender roles has become anathema in modern American society. To even discuss the idea of different roles for men and women these days is to invite the wrath of the politically correct crowd.

But are men and women exactly the same?

Do husbands and wives have different roles to play in the context of the family?

Those are important questions.

Most Americans today would reject the idea of specific gender roles.

But the Bible embraces them.

In Ephesians 5:22-25 the Scriptures say this.....

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

When you read through what the Bible has to say about gender roles, one of the things that jumps out is the huge responsibility put on men. Husbands are expected to do whatever they have to do to protect their families. That includes having to die for them if necessary, just as Christ died for the Church.

But are men brought up to be this type of extraordinary "servant-leader" in the United States today?

No.

If you turn on the television today, you won't have to wait long to see how men are expected to behave in modern America - sex crazed, beer swilling, irresponsible idiot slackers who cower before their more mature, more responsible and more dominant female partners.

The truth is that the "strong male" has become an endangered species in the United States. It has been widely reported that testosterone levels in men are dropping about 1.2% per year, and 59% of all college students are now female. In fact, it has been reported that women in their 20s in the 10 largest cities in the United States now earn more money than men of the same age. Those women who are still looking for a traditional "man" complain that all they find are overgrown boys who have given up, tuned out, are slaves to their addictions and who won't take responsibility for anything.

Not that men are bad - most of them feel completely lost and confused - as if they have lost something that they didn't even know they were missing. All of their lives American men have been taught that they are NOT the leaders of the home, and that it should be expected that women will yell at them and tell them what to do. Movies and television reinforce this programming every single day by bombarding men and boys with the message that they are irresponsible subservient slackers who need to be corrected by the more responsible females.

Just think about all the times you have watched a scene where a female character yells at a male character and chews him out.

And what do we do?

We laugh and snicker.

But now take that same scene and flip the characters.

We would be horrified, wouldn't we?

And rightfully so.

So why do we think it is cute when the female verbally abuses the male?

The truth is that we have taught a generation of women that they should lead and dominate men. Instead of teaching them the Biblical principle that women should respect their husbands and let them lead, we have instructed our young women to rebel against any semblance of male leadership.

A shocking study done by the respected Pew Research Center confirms that in the United States it is women who predominantly rule the home.

The study surveyed 1,260 individuals who were either married or living together. What the study found was that in 43% of all couples, women make more decisions in the four areas Pew surveyed: planning weekend activities, household finances, major home purchases and television watching.

26% of the time men make more of the decisions, the survey revealed, and 31% of the time the decisions are made "equally".

So should we be surprised?

Is it not obvious that the women wear the pants in most American families now?

For example, one respondent to the USAToday article about this survey wrote this:

"I am a manager at work, and wouldn't have it any other way. But when I get home, I'd much rather chill out and let the wife make the calls."

The truth is that we have trained a generation of American men to be immature, subservient, submissive wimps who are very hesitant to take responsibility or leadership.

Watch just about any sitcom or any television commercial or any movie with these issues in mind. Watch who the dominant partner in any couple is. Once you know to look for it you will see it everywhere.

This is not how a society should work.

The Bible teaches that men should be strong, powerful, sacrificial servant-leaders as we see in Ephesians 5:25:

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

The truth is that men need to be so strong for their wives and children that they need to be ready to die for their families if it comes down to that.

How far we are from that ideal today.

Instead of creating a society full of strong men who would be willing to die for their families if need be, we have created a society full of weak, irresponsible, passive men who won't stand up for anyone or anything.

Is that something to be proud of?

Should we boast that we have nearly eradicated traditional gender roles from modern American society?

Not at all.

The rejection of traditional gender roles has made America much weaker, and it is future generations who will continue to pay the price for our foolishness.

3 comments:

  1. Tarheelhombre said...

    What a primitively sexist, bigoted, and hetero- sexist outlook. As a young Christian male, I am glad that my generation, Christian and non-Christian, reject outdated sexist roles and stereotypes. It is amazing to find people who still adhere to primitive notions of rigid sex and gender roles. How prehistoric.

  2. Princess Tami Jo said...

    I totaly agree with this article. As a mother of 3, my husband has taken on the wordly role, instead of the Godly role that Jesus teaches. I also teach emotional disturb children and I truly see that the male leadership is missing in not only those kids, but SO MANY kids of regular classrooms. I feel it's time the me go back to what the word says!!! I agree with this and have had many a fights with my spouse of many years over this very thing. I think it's time men took back what the enemy has stole from them and rise up and be what God called them to be.

  3. Erika said...

    "The study surveyed 1,260 individuals who were either married or living together. What the study found was that in 43% of all couples, women make more decisions in the four areas Pew surveyed: planning weekend activities, household finances, major home purchases and television watching."

    That honestly makes a lot of sense. If the woman is following the traditional role of staying home, those are all things she's taking care of most of the time, anyway. She's most in tune to what's needed. Not to say anything against men, but if the man is out working, that's the area he's familiar with and is more capable to decide for things pertaining to that.

    "I am a manager at work, and wouldn't have it any other way. But when I get home, I'd much rather chill out and let the wife make the calls."

    That also makes a lot of sense. It's not being weak, it's being tired from a long day. He's been the responsible one all day, and it'd be nice to let go, and let someone else do the hard part for a while.

    While I entirely agree with men being strong, the saddest part is, people twist the Bible verse you quoted. It doesn't seem like you particularly have but a lot of people take it as the man has the power, the woman has none. And women got fed up with it. Following traditional roles, women stayed home, cooked, cleaned, cared for the kids, did the errands, and yet got NO respect for it and were viewed as less than human. However men got all the praise in the world for "going out and working." Talk about unfair and wrong. Women finally have stood up for themselves and demanded the respect they were lacking for most if not all of human history. People took things like that verse and used it to oppress women into servitude/slavery, rather than to use it as a guideline to have a happy, loving home (because if that verse is followed then yes, it would lead to a very productive, warm, and happy household).

    Men should be strong, yes, but not at the cost of women having that strength too. What women do is just as noble and respectable as what men do, but when a woman demands respect for it, she's looked down on. But when a man does half that, and gets the respect, it's absurd. They should all get respect for what they do, and be praised for who and what they are.

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